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Making Progress

The strangest thing happened to me this week.

There was that one coworker that I was having serious trouble understanding. He was the one with whom I thought I had nothing in common. Almost every conversation or interaction with him was awkward or forced. I had trouble trusting him because I couldn’t give him the benefit of the doubt. At least that’s where I thought I was with him.

The strange thing that happened was that he asked me if I wanted to get a drink that evening, after dinner. It was the day the other LA staff had to leave to Dallas to go back to LA. It was so weird because, like I said, we had already gotten dinner as a team. We had gone back to the hotel. It was like 9pm and he had only texted me. Oh, and were staying at different hotels. So he had to drive to get to this bar for the drink. And, I guess the weirdest part was that I thought he felt the same way about me. Maybe not all that distrusting stuff, but at least the not having anything in common part.

Anyway, I was jogging when I got that text. I said yea, let’s do it, I’m jogging so when I shower I’m good to go. He said alright and I met him at the bar for the drink.

It was weird, because it wasn’t that weird.

I don’t remember the first thing we talked about, but we hit some pretty easy topics. We talked about our favorite movies and! why we liked them. We talked about work, but not that usual way where it’s just complaining other people he’s worked with, or when he’s name dropping important people he knows. It was us talking about what we like and don’t like. We were both opening up. It felt real.

That’s how we left it. The next day he flew back to LA and I stayed until Sunday to spend some time with my family.

I thought this might happen. I know we didn’t have anything in common, but I figured that our experience at this client, would eventually be the start of our things in common. I just thought it would take like a year.

I’m really curious how things will be in January.


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Connect Two

There’s a coworker with whom I’m having trouble connecting.

Last time in Dallas was the first time I worked with him and it didn’t go so well. I spent a good amount of time thinking about why and I boiled it down to us not having anything in common. That was causing me to not give him the benefit of the doubt in our interactions. So anytime he had comments about, let’s say, what we should do next or where to get an answer, I would think he was lying or trying to make me look bad in front of the boss peoples.

When the two weeks started, things went pretty well. I was in a good mood and I was kind of trusting him, which I thought was because this time around we had something in common. We at least had the shared experience of being at the client the last time around.

Things were good most of the week. I probably felt the best about him on Thursday of that first week. That day to had a variance in one of my work papers and I finally asked for help from the boss peoples. After some in tense discussions, for like 15-20 minutes, the boss lady realizes it was my fault. I had set something up wrong. So I was feeling embarrassed and everything, but he was trying to help me find the error and being genuinely helpful. He was being empathetic.

Friday was whatever, but the following week was more fun.

Another coworker from LA was staying nearby so we were going to hang out with him a couple of times. I had only met this guy other time, but he didn’t seem like he’d have much in common with this guy. So I had a chance to see what or why this new guy liked in him.

It was kind of a bust. They mostly talked about work. Specially bad clients they have or had, stuff that irked them about other coworkers, stuff they hated about people who had left. But I guess that’s one way to have things in common. Talking about people has never really been my thing. Even the huge conversation with myself that I’m about to have below is really about me.

Anyway, the biggest break through came on probably Tuesday or Wednesday of that second week. The boss lay was reviewing some of our work and asking some questions.

She first asked me if I had signed off on a work paper and I said something like “no, sorry, I’ll do it now.” No big deal, because it wasn’t.

A few minutes later, she asked him about something and it turned out he had forgotten to do it, or did it wrong, I can’t remember which. It was anything too bad. It was a small oversight and easy fix.

Then about a minute later she asked us if anyone had grouped the accounts on some work paper, which was my responsibility and I hadn’t, so I said another, whoops sorry. It was an annoying thing, but also another easy fix. Well while I was saying that, he had an, oh that was his fault comment. To which I was like um yea my fault, my bad, do you want me to fix that? The boss lady said no, that she would handle it, but this guy was like oh I can’t believe you didn’t do that.

Which I immediately thought oh this guy doesn’t want to look like he made more mistakes than me. He really doesn’t give off that impression. And then so much clicked for me.

I knew this guy was ambitious, because he likes to humblebrag. He’ll complain about how much he had to work, because so many people needed his help. Actually, that basically sums up most of his humblebrags. But once he made a big deal about this small thing, I realized how insecure he is.

In light of that realization, the events of the previous Thursday don’t seem as empathetic, because he was probably mainly helping me to look better to the bosses.

But oh well, at least we don’t have to work together on the same work, just on the same client. And hey, maybe things will be different when we see each other again in January. At least then we’ll have two trips to Dallas in common.

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The Man from PG

I’m in San Jose this week for work.

Since the client is headquartered in Dallas, they sent a staff from Dallas to help out with the work. That isn’t all unfathomable. But it turned out it wasn’t some typical person from Dallas.

It was a guy who grew up around my neighborhood. He went to the schools in my neighborhood. He was from the hood. He left the place after he graduated school, but he returned to Dallas.

The guy was very similar to me and that is so strange to see here. It is so strange to see someone so similar doing the same thing I am doing. This is the fifth year that I’ll be doing this, at three (3) different companies, and it is the first time that I’ve met anyone like me.

The guy kinda looks like my cousin too.

That’s about it.

This was very more interesting in my head.

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Changing Responsibilities

I spent the last week down at one of my client’s offices.

I want to say that we got a lot done, but we didn’t. We were too distracted with other clients and administrative items.

I was told this happens to seniors, but I finally got some real experience with the situation. I didn’t like it. I’ll have to come up with some way to prioritize my workflow. Yea, I guess that will ultimately be it. I can’t do it all. Some stuff is going to have to not get done.

The newest part was telling the new staff what to do, then showing her how to do it, and then reviewing it. The telling her part wasn’t too bad. I think I’m a decent explain-er. The showing her how to do it was more difficult because I couldn’t yet tell where that line was between watching her do it and letting her doing it. And that kinda revolved around wanting her to come up with some ideas naturally and letting her learn through the struggle, but then also not wanting her to become frustrated through too much struggling.

I barely got to the reviewing part, but I don’t think I had enough time to actually go through it with her. So I thought I would save that for Monday. The review part is really important for her development and her development is really important to the success of our future engagements.

These are different problems than I’m used to so they are stressing me out earlier this week. But as time passes I’m feeling more and more confident about them. Now they’re almost starting to become exciting.

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New Pay

We got paid today.

It was the first paycheck with the raise included. Although, it was also the first paycheck with the 401k contributions and increased savings allocation. So it was basically almost the same amount.

Man, I have to pay to renew my insurance. It’s so expensive. More expensive than it should be, I think. It’s so much that I should probably go to my savings and get some money out to cover than and my credit card payment. I really should include those travel expenses from when I went to LA in my expense report. That way I can pay my credit card.

I’m so glad tomorrow is Friday. I think I’ll be leaving early tomorrow so I can go get a haircut. I’ll have to pack and stuff soon. We’re going to be at the robot client next week. oh, we’re taking one of the new girls, so that will be interesting.

That’s it for now. I’m kinda tired and I want to get up early tomorrow, to get in early, and leave early.

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Work Working

I’m checking in at work at 7 now so I have to wake up at 5:45 to have enough time to get ready and catch the bus. It’s a pain. I get really sleepy from 8-10 and then again from 1:30-3. I usually go to lunch with one, or some, of my co-workers. I had some Japanese food the other day. I couldn’t tell you what any of it was called. That was Monday. I had In N Out yesterday and today. Those burgers are delicious. I won’t get tired of them.

After I came back from my break. Everyone in the office was talking about how a the office of a Senator contacted one of our co-workers in another office. So everyone thought it would be funny if we called her and pretended to be the Senator. I was chosen to call because we’ve never met and she wouldn’t recognize my voice.

So I called and pretended to be from the Senator’s office.


The USA beat Panama and advanced to the final of the Gold Cup. Mexico is playing right now. Mexico should win. I’m rooting for the USA, but Mexico is the better team this time. I’ll be surprised if Mexico doesn’t win.

Quote of the Day

Co-worker: One time I audited someone down in Long Beach who had a foot fetish website. He’d go down to the beach and take pictures of people’s feet, then pay them $10 or offer them a pedicure to put it up on his site.


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